Frustration gets the best of most people. Have you ever wondered why we get frustrated? Do you ever take a step back and wonder why we feel a trillion emotions all at once when we are frustrated?
If you are anything like me, which if you are a woman…you will probably relate with what I am about to say, when you are frustrated you take it out on the person who is in the closet proximity to you…you may yell, scream, stomp cry or better yet…laugh?!
I used to get mad and freak out when I was stressed. I would usually bottle up the emotions inside and then like a volcano I would erupt! But now when I am stressed I laugh and I laugh a lot.
When this happens my Husband R.H. tends to look at me a little weird and wonders what the heck. R.H. will often say ‘are you okay?’ My response is always ‘ya…I think so…’ I am hoping that you can see that with a change in mindset, around frustration, I was able to go from angry & nasty Sara to comical and happy Sara.
Want to know my secret? I discovered that when I was frustrated it meant that I was in the midst of a breakthrough. Much like I wrote about confusion, frustration is a sign that something is happening within the brain. When we get frustrated it is because we have had enough, we have reached our limit and we are ready for a change. It’s time for something new to happen. It could be a new thought, a new direction, a new platform or simply a new feeling within us.
I know for me that I have gotten frustrated with my lack of exercise and there came a time that I said enough! I am done being like this…stuck at my desk or sitting on the couch and wondering why I am so tired. So, I did something about it…I got myself a pair of walking poles and started walking. Another time I got frustrated is when a client basically refused to abide by the contractual rules and their lack of attention made my job extremely difficult. I got so frustrated one day that I called them up and politely asked them to find success elsewhere. This breakthrough did the following for me:
- It made me stand up for my core values
- I found courage
- I believed in myself
- I learned that there is so much more on the other side of fear
I hope that in me sharing my experience and mindset change around frustration is that you to will take a step back and think about what is truly happening when frustration hits. Believe it or not, frustration is a good thing. Frustration means that you are in enjoying a breakthrough.
Living Beyond Satisfied,
Sara L. Clarke